Monday, 16 February 2015

Valentine's Day Weekend

"When Cupid knocks at your door, there's no need to run!" - Andre 3000 of Outkast singing "Happy Valentine's Day".

I was extremely fearful that Valentine’s Day didn’t exist in Cape Town, since it I thought it was a US, Hallmark holiday.  However, I just read on Wikipedia that it has been around forever and started when a couple Christian martyrs, both named Valentine (or Valentinus) were executed for marrying Roman soldiers and preaching in the name of Christ.  That was over 1500 years ago.  Not a Hallmark holiday after all, it seems. 


Antique V-day card.


Like all men, I was anxiously awaiting Valentine’s Day.  I couldn’t wait to think about how I was going to show Rebecca how much I lover her.  Yeah right!  Valentine’s Day sucks.  I have never liked it.  Not only do flower shops decide to make everything 300% its normal price, but also restaurants are kind enough to offer expensive price fixe deals for you!  How nice!  Considering how the holiday has turned into an opportunity to pamper all the women out there and nothing to do with Christianity, which is why the original martyrs were killed, they might be upset if they saw what was happening!  All you women totally deserve to be pampered, though.  So don’t misunderstand me.  Men are oafs that would probably not survive a week if it weren’t for the wonderful women in our lives.  So thank you all for keeping us around!  You are in sad shape if you are a man and only showing your woman how much you love her one day a year!  So I was soooo happy when I saw all the Valentine’s Day displays in the stores here.  It is alive and well in South Africa. 

The really good news about the holiday is that it gave Sammi and Chad an excuse to come over from Pretoria to hang out all weekend.  They flew in afternoon and left Monday afternoon.  Rebecca was in class all day so I tried my best to prepare the apartment for guests.  The biggest challenge we had been avoiding was to move the double beds from the guest room into the master bedroom, and the queen (which is more like a wider-than-normal full size bed) from the master bedroom into the guest room.  The two doubles pushed together turned out to be way roomier than the so-called queen bed.  I decided to tackle this project myself.  It took me about 2 hours of sweating, slowing pulling around mattresses a few inches at a time while in my wheelchair, screwing and unscrewing bed frames, but was finally and happily able to get the job done!  Rebecca came home and said, “Chip??? How did you do this??? Did you get help?”  Nope!  “Show me how you did this!”  I told her it would have to remain a mystery and she would have to consider me a little less helpless!  Definitely a good feeling to do a man’s job again (not that women can’t do it – just that the man should to save the woman the trouble!).

We went out to dinner at a nice Greek restaurant Friday night with Sammi, Chad and a couple other friends. Saturday we drove out to Stellenbosch to go wine tasting in the country.  It’s only about an hour from Cape Town.  The weather was incredible.  The country is even less hospitable to me than the city, so I just took my crutches and got plenty of walking in.  According to my FitBit, I walked over 6,000 steps on Saturday, including 6 flights of steps and quite a bit of standing around.  We stayed at a bed & breakfast Saturday night.  Sunday we started all over again driving around and tasting great food and wine.  We even met up with a tour group consisting of some exchange students in Rebecca’s program from the US.  All in all a great and exhausting weekend!


This is a pic of the countryside in the wine region here.


Now it’s Monday and I’m back to trying to find a job.  I’ve been focusing more on that then writing the book for the moment.  However, I do have a few chapters completed.  The more I look into the job market, the rougher it seems.  They are still reeling with the aftereffects of apartheid here, including things like not allowing foreigners to buy land and further limiting how much business foreigners can do, what jobs they can take, etc.  Honestly that’s just the tip of the iceberg.  So starting a business here right now seems like a terrible idea.  I had hoped to somehow get involved with the townships and shantytowns and helping a non-profit educate or train those groups.  But it seems that traveling to both the non-profits and the townships are extremely difficult for me.  For example, I went to one non-profit called the Scalibrini Centre, which was down a commercial street.  The sidewalks were far worse than the already difficult main streets.  3 separate times in the span of a block I had to get assistance from a passerby to make it over a giant hole or over a steep slant to avoid from flipping over.  Doing that on a daily basis seems ludicrous, so I didn’t pursue that. 

As a quick side topic - the general treatment of the disabled here is somewhat of a double-edged sword.  On one hand, people are often coming up to offer assistance.  They are all very nice about that.  On the other, the reason they are offering assistance is because they consider me fairly helpless.  They often comment how they are surprised that I am out and about on my own.  I see other people in wheelchairs being pushed around the streets.  And there are even “homes for the disabled” here, where spinal cord injuries and other handicapped folks are just living through life without hardly ever venturing outside.  I've reached out to a few of them to get involved and encourage them to get out and be active.  We'll see how it goes.

Back to the job scenario – it seems that Cape Town is largely driven by real estate and tourism.  There are other jobs, but they are very specific and not really hiring.  If they are hiring, then I still don’t have a work permit.  Once I do, then they have to be able to justify to the government why I am being hired over every other citizen in South Africa.  Most of the jobs that fit my criteria are in Johanessburg.  There are scenarios where it might make sense for me to go there and work while Rebecca stays in school in Cape Town, but they don’t seem too appealing right now.  On top of all this, the pay scale is quite a bit different than the US.  Admin assistants here make a whopping 80,000 rand a year, or about $7,500.  A YEAR!  That’s crazy.  Management positions pay $30-40k, even in larger, corporate positions. 

So I’m strongly considering focusing on the book for now and not getting down about the job market until I actually have my work visa.  I should have that in another month or two!  I also have a business idea I'm developing that takes up a little time.  

Definitely a different world here!  But we had a great weekend and I am going to keep enjoying it as much as I can. 

Dear Lord, keep me positive.  Please allow me more weekends like this Valentine’s Day weekend.  It was awesome!  Fill me with the Holy Spirit.  Guide my actions, thoughts, and decisions.  Use my life to accomplish Your will.  Help me to understand the path You’d have me take.  Thank you for this great experience.  Thank you for Rebecca, for my great family, friends, and this life.  And thanks for Tucky.  In Your name, Amen. 

Have a great week!
Chip




  

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